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This simple idea helped change my life. In my spiritual studies, it is a key concept that often reappears, especially in Eastern philosophies. We tend to develop expectations around everything we do, and when reality does not align with them, disappointment follows. It’s a cycle many of us, including myself, have found ourselves caught in.

When I first read this simple statement, it became clear to me: if I had no expectations—especially in challenging relationships—I would never be disappointed. Instead, I could shift my focus to appreciating what is rather than dwelling on what should be, and in doing so, find the good in the present moment.

Expectations are shaped by our own personal reasoning and experiences. They often sound like, “This is what they should have done” or “This is how it should have been.” But expectations assume that others—especially family members—see, think, and feel the same way we do. More often than not, these assumptions are unconscious.

By making a conscious decision to let go of expectation, we connect with our true intention. Intention is what drives everything we think and do—it is our motivator, our call to action. When our intention is rooted in goodness and serves a higher purpose, expectation becomes irrelevant because the very act of putting forth goodness sends ripples through the Universe. And that, you can be sure of.

Letting go of expectations and embracing appreciation is a mindful, conscious practice. By focusing on our intentions and cultivating gratitude, we can shift from disappointment to a more fulfilling perspective. This approach not only fosters personal growth but also sends positive energy (“good vibes”) into the world, uplifting ourselves and those around us.